Susan Thom

No Way Out But Through It



Posted: Thursday, October 04, 2007

by Susan Thom



No matter what we are going through, during what period of life that we are going through it, the only way out is to go through it. Right through the center. There are no shortcuts. If you need a root canal, you either get it done, or live in pain. There are no miracle cures, nothing else that can be done but to go through what needs to happen to fix the problem.

Natural childbirth, painful and excruciating at times, but there is no way out of that situation but to go through it and get to the other side. You can’t back up, or postpone it, or even stop it.

The loss of someone close to you, as I lost my mother. Agonizing pain and despair. It’s hard to know what to do with the pain. However, the only way to recover to a place you can deal, is to go through it. Let your emotions out, pray, and allow time to heal the depth of the wound. The wound will always be there, but it won’t be as open and raw.

Situations occur that are unnerving and unsettling to your mind, body, and soul. You can’t wish them away, you can’t force them away, you have to go straight through the middle and go through each situation, one step at a time. As you break down each aspect, it becomes easier. When you believe in your heart that there is a solution and an ending, simply going through it is the process back to recovery. That recovery is your sanity, your comfort zone, your belief system, and your happiness and well-being.

We all know nothing lasts forever. Occurrences that happen in our lives don’t usually last forever, either. There are exceptions, of course, such as illness that you need to go through, but may not have a happy ending or solution. In these cases, we still will be still be more at peace during our difficulty, if we just keep walking through the emotions and work through the problems, whatever they may be.

There are things none of us want to do, but need to in order to keep our lives in balance, and deal in reality. Putting the covers over our head doesn’t help in the long run, it just prolongs the agony. And yet, there are times for rest and recuperation so we can be strong enough to just walk through the fire, and get to the other side.

There’s always the other side, no matter what it turns out to be. It might be an ending to one problem, and the beginning to another. Once we learn how to step on the coals without burning our feet, we have won a big battle.

We are the ones who need to protect ourselves from the elements. There is good, and there is evil, and we need to be able to handle both. What side are we on, and what do we do to maintain our dignity and fortitude? That’s up to each individual. I personally, prefer the side of good and honesty, and will fight the coals to get to the other side of any problem or situation I may be in. I want it behind me, so I can be free and at peace in my mind, heart, and soul. A tough task, but possible.

Life is hard with it’s ups and downs and surprises and disappointments.

Problems can seem so overbearing and long-lasting. The only way to counter these problems when there seems to be no way out, is to merely go through them.

Susan Thom is the mother of three children, two sons, 20 and 23, and a daughter 25. Her older son is in the air force in Germany right now, and her daughter is in the army in Tacoma, Washington.

Writing calms her, and gives her a place to go by herself! Clears the head and gets it out. She lives in a rural area, with a lake and mountains, and her partner, and has loved writing since she was a child.

She has been on a journey of self discovery for twenty years, and has learned many things about the human mind, and how to maintain some semblance of calm and peace within.

If someone reads one of her stories, and relates to her feelings, and gets a suggestion on how she dealt with them in a positive way, that would be the ultimate gift of her writing.

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» left by Dave Tanguay
4 years 220 days ago.
Good advice Susan, in one of Johnny Cash's songs he sings: "Like steel I'm probably stronger from going through the fire" Once you get through the obstacle you are a stronger or better person.
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