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Its so difficult when we are in a situation that is causing us pain and anxiety and fear, to remember that in time, this too shall pass, and we can get back to our regular routine. Thats where we feel safe and comfortable and happy and fulfilled. When that safety and comfort is shaken, it leads to frustration and anger and resentment.

We must go through our feelings, while keeping our balance, and come out the other side. There are always going to be problems to deal with, the question is, how will we deal with them? If we deal with the truth, and not our perceptions of the truth, we can begin to work through our problems. Step by step, one day at a time. It sounds easy, but we know its not. Why? Because we have emotions and feelings that come to the surface when we are in crisis, a time of happenings that is difficult for us to know how to handle. Each situation creates its own experience, and that experience leads to growth and strength and more truth. We can add them up, and incorporate them into our personality, and our resolve.

This will help us not feel so overwhelmed when the next wave tries to wipe us out. For there will always be waves, there is no getting around that. A mentor of mine expressed how we should hold our hand open, with all the people and situations in our palm, and not to close our hand and try to hold onto those people and experiences. Thats where the pain will come in, for people and situations will change, and come and go, and we have to be open handed to let this process happen.

If we hold on too tightly to the problem, and the feelings it entices, we will hurt more deeply. If we are aware that we need to let situations an people go, we can handle it in a calmer way. This I say, from recent experiences, not just off the cuff, or philosophically. I had to go through it. "It" being the two oldest of my children leaving home within a month of each other. I wasnt calm when it happened, I wasnt happy, I wasnt satisfied, I was however, sad and depressed and it forced me to move to another level of my life I hadnt anticipated happening so soon.

I cried a lot, I worried a lot, and then I started the healing process when I was done grieving. Im still not happy about it, but I have learned to accept it and deal with it, and move on with this different lifestyle. My palm had to open, for it was tightly balled in a fist, and I didnt want to let go. When I started looking at it from another perspective of them being prepared enough by me to make these moves, and strong enough in their psyche to make them happen, and deal with life on the outside, I began to calm down. I talk to them on the phone, and they are succeeding outside the home.

I never would have thought, when it first happened, that I would get past it, but it was true, "this too shall pass." I got on the other side of it, and embraced their independence and tenacity to make it on their own. My twenty year old son now has glasses and dishes and a can opener!, and a new bed and sheets and comforter, all he did on his own. A few months ago, and for twenty years, he was using my dishes and glasses and can opener, and twin sheets for a twin bed, now he has a queen. Thats a step up for him right there. Hes happy, and that makes me happy. The heartache passed, and now the visiting and sharing our lives begins.

My daughter moved away, and she is also making it, and learning how to live on the outside. I fed her the knowledge of how to do so all of her life, as I should have been, and now, shes running with it. The heartache over not seeing her every day also had to take its time to pass, but it did, even when I thought it never would.

Each time a situation or experience happens that we are hit with, and must go through the emotions and feelings they bring, and come out on the other side, we are learning and growing. I learned how to let my kids go, the palm of my hand had to open, and the tight fist had to relax. No more parenting or raising, now its guiding adults when they want and need my help.

Everything has a season, a time period of deep and powerful emotions. Our objective should be to walk through the forest, toward the light, have faith, pray for guidance and help, and remember that, this too, shall pass.