Do You Feel Alone In A World Full Of People
Posted: Monday, January 28, 2008
by Susan Thom
How can we feel alone in a room full of people, or a house full of people, or a world full of people? Sometimes, we feel as if we're in one of those glass sound booths, and we can see people's mouths moving, but we don't hear a word. How can we distance ourselves from reality? Sometimes, I believe, it is necessary to do just that. The truth of life can be overwhelming. A little reinforcement of the mind and body can only help. This can be shopping or fishing or reading or taking a bath, a nap, a shower, anything that calms us and opens up our focusing avenues. However, once we take our precious break from the real world, we need to tackle the problems causing us to feel alone.
If we've had an argument with a person, chances are if there is love, there is a way to mend the situation. If it's bills and money, we can talk to the people we owe money to and set up some sort of payment plan we can handle. If it's kids, we can talk to them and try and rectify any problems we see or are involved in. Most times common sense and honesty will get you to where you want to be. This subtracts the amount of thinking going on in your brain, and allows you to pay more attention to now, and other people, especially the one's talking to you! Instead of feeling alone, you are now involved. You are present in a conversation. You are enjoying life. Imagine that!
You can go out to lunch with a friend. You will be able to focus in on the two of you, and what you each have to say. You'll be amazed at how good the food tastes. And you won't have felt alone once. We must learn how to turn on and off our "worry circuitry" so we can balance out our lives. When we feel alone, it is because we are going into ourselves. We are retreating from people and situations. We are putting the glass around us and worrying again. We need to learn when to put the glass up, and when to let it stay down. There are times it just shouldn't appear, as when out to lunch with a friend, or talking to someone on the phone.
There are always going to be things to worry about, but should we let those worries take over our lives? I think not. Maybe we could tame ourselves to only worry when we are alone. That is, after we've learned how to trim our worry! We don't have to worry that our child's cat has fleas; they live on their own! We don't have to worry that another child has more piercings, so what? We don't have to worry about things that others can handle on their own. Focusing on not surrounding yourself with worry isn't easy, but it can be done. Faith is a big asset. Knowing that the Lord wouldn't give you more than you can handle is a reminder that everything will be okay.
We never have to feel alone unless we choose to. If our mind, body, and spirit are in tune, we'll always feel a part of the house with people scattered here and there, even though we are alone on our computer and everybody else is asleep. We don't have to feel alone in a crowded room, because our worries won't let us loosen up and mingle and talk to people. We will feel confident and excited to be out and around other adults. All because we somehow found a way to put our worries in a compartment somewhere inside of us, and left it there while we went out and had some fun. We deserve to be happy, and we will be as long as we take care of what has to be done, and enjoy ourselves the rest of the time.
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Top-level comments on this article: (5 total)Yes, Susan there is always a way to break out from the worries and the suffering. Howevr, that is only a short respite for we all wake and back to the grind that we call life. Does it need to be this way, no. But frankly we are a world chasing after the things of no real wealth and hence the pain and the suffering. If we can let go then we can let go of the darkness and focus on what is good and real, our loved ones. Yes, we are sands on a beach. The only ones that know of us are those who touch us. Someone comes along and steps on us and we are pushed to the bottom, a wave comes in and we are washed away into darkness never to be seen again.Yes, treasure that moment in the beach for it flies away qucikly never to return. Best Wishes and good job RTMPlease log in to respond to this comment.hi robert, thank you for reading and commenting. yes, the ying and the yang, the up and the down, the in and the out, the back and forth. life is filled with positives and negatives. the moment on the beach must be treasured before the wave hits. i think those of us that realize this, have happier moments on this Earth. thank you for your input. best regards, suePlease log in to respond to this comment.
What if we don't have any "loved ones"............................what then ? Are we a nation of couples? What if we live alone, and we haven't bought intot he concept of family, and kids, etc. What if we're just "a bit odd" or "a bit different" ? I have parents, and siblings, and yet I have felt alone my whole life! Why? Is this my "fault" or the result of a selfish ego centric society? How knows..............Please log in to respond to this comment.hi anon,i have 3 aunts who live alone. they are in their 70's and they take bus trips and play bingo one day, bunko another, go out to lunh or dinner, and keep themselves very busy. i guess the key is that we are all responsible for our own selves, and finding things we are interested in to help take up our time, and volunteer work is a great idea, and i'm sure would produce a good feeling.sometimes, parents and siblings are the ones who don't know how to show or express their feelings, it's their problem, not ours, and we need to come to terms with that.i've been a bit "differnt" my whole life, so maybe that does have something to do with it!i'm sorry for the delay in my response,my best regards,suePlease log in to respond to this comment.
reading this has helped me to grab onto not feeling so alone tonite..I awaken in the middle of nite, live alone, it can be so very lonely & frightening to me...when it is dark and everyone seems to be sleeping...except me.Please log in to respond to this comment.hi chrissy,i apologize for the delay in commenting there was a glitz.i'm sorry you feel alone, i know what it feels like. it's a barren, empty feeling.when i wake up in the night and can't fall back to sleep, i watch some TV or type an article, and eventually, sleep comes. i wish you all the luck in feeling like you may live alone, but you are never really alone.my best regards,suePlease log in to respond to this comment.
I was always alone in this world,wanted to be loved,by someone.I always had teary eyes,wanted it to be wiped by someone,ah ! what a painful days I have,Is it life ?I hate it.......I wanna sleep forever as if I never came in this world. I hate this life, i hate it.....Please log in to respond to this comment.dear anon,thank you for reading and commenting.i'm sorry for your loneliness.have faith-it only takes a moment for someone to come into your life,my best regards,suePlease log in to respond to this comment.
I am a friendly person however I have a hard time makeing real friends. I cannot seem to make new connections that I would call and really get to know every connection is purely causal hi, how are you and I don't get past that. IN the last 3 years my two best friends died and now all I have are casual friends. How does a grown middle aged woman develop a new close friendship and moreover how do you develope the personality that will let you be more friendly to everyone in general?Please log in to respond to this comment.hi nomadj,
thanks for reading and commenting.
i have a partner, so i'm not really looking for companionship, but if i were to imagine i was, i would think i'd have to get out more, i.e. the hairdresser's, foodstores, walmart's, bingo, church functions, and donate my time to activities satrted by the churches and schools.
good luck, and be real, changing your personality is fine if it is one of disdain, but if not, i would think you'd attract more people like yourself if you were yourself.
i hope this helps,
my best to you,
suePlease log in to respond to this comment.
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