Would A Hug Help
Posted: Friday, March 14, 2008
by Susan Thom
I remember all the hugs given when my kids were younger, and how good those hugs felt. The calming affect they had on me, no matter how frazzled my day had been, and those hugs were welcomed by the little ones as well. How many scraped knees and pinched fingers and bumped heads were comforted by a hug from mom, or grandma, grandpa, dad, or anyone there witnessing their mishap. Many times, as I held one of my three little ones, and rocked them as they fell asleep, I would continue rocking even after they had fallen off to slumberland. There just didn't seem to be a feeling in the world that could compare to hugging my child. There is something so precious, in smelling their clean, fresh scent, brushing their hair from their forehead, feeling them breathe, inspecting their faces.
My youngest is seventeen, and as their older siblings before them, the kissing and hugging of mom just isn't comfortable. As if my kids will ever stand a chance from the loving arms of mommy. Now there are "others" who have those loving arms! Luckily, this period only lasts a few years, and by twenty, and twenty two, my other two are back on track. Another couple of years, my youngest will follow. He appeases me whenever I ask for a hug and a kiss, but I'm pretty sure he'd rather be taking the garbage out! The dog though, he will hug and kiss at will.
I think, as adults, we, too, forget the importance of the healing qualities of a hug. When we are going through a difficult time, and experiencing all the emotions of fear and sadness and pain, a hug can do wonders. Someone who has some positive energy stored, can slip some right in our pocket, with a hug, if it's a good hug, not too tight, not too uncomfortable, just easy, calm, and loving. The heat of that positive energy is felt, the love of the other individual is absorbed, and chances are, your strength will be enhanced. You can carry that hug all through your day, even when you may not be aware of doing so.
You seem lighter on your feet, happier in your demeanor, more agreeable to others, and unless you are in tune, you might not even be aware of where all this great energy came from. After years of marriage, and kids underfoot, we tend to shy away from the things that are really important, like a good-bye kiss and a nice hug that let's us know, we are cared about. There is so much stress in the world today, and yet such a simple thing to do could relieve some of that stress. Everybody wants to feel loved, wanted, appreciated, and missed. One hug could fulfill those wants.
I watched a baby Panda Bear give birth on one of the cable networks, and the majority of her time was spent hugging her tiny newborn. Hours and hours. Could it be that mother nature knows better what we need than we do ourselves? I believe so. It was instinctual, this Panda's first born, and yet she knew what to do to make her baby feel safe and guarded, happy and loved. We can do the same for each other, we just have to think it, do it, and pass it along. There can never be enough positive energy being shared among the "people" kingdom. All of nature already knows.
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Top-level comments on this article: (4 total)Yeah Susan, mother nature does know what is best for us. Animals obey her laws naturally while human beings try to undue the old gal.Please log in to respond to this comment.hi david, i can always count on you for reading and responding. thank you for taking the time. you are absolutely right about nature. we could learn a thing or two, if we just observe and liten, huh? my best to you, suePlease log in to respond to this comment.
Where was this article yesterday when I crawled out of work and only felt like climbing under a rock! After a day like that I really needed a hug! Thanks for the information as it brought a smile to my face after a rough week. Thanks, Keith Q.Please log in to respond to this comment.h mr. keith, thank you for dropping by and reading and responding. i truly appreciate your time. now, you need to grab someone who will give you a nice hug, and take away some of the stress of your week! my best regards, suePlease log in to respond to this comment.
Hi Sue. Boy do I know what you mean - missing those little precious hugs! My older friends with grandkids tell me "just you wait - you get those hugs again - from your kids too!" I enjoyed your warm article. Dianne B.Please log in to respond to this comment.hi dianne, i still am not quite sure why a hug or a kiss can send teens running to take the garbage out, but, the hugs will come back around. i'm glad i got my fair share when they were too young to know the difference! :) thanks for reading and responding, best regards, suePlease log in to respond to this comment.
The one thing I demand of my children is a never ending supply of hugs for momma... sometimes I think it's the only thing that keeps me going! Another great article susan...lol mylaPlease log in to respond to this comment.hi myla, thank you for reading and responding. my sons are well over 6 feet tall, but their momma's hugs are mandatory, as well as my little petite daughter. and p.s. I think they like it! :) my best regards, suePlease log in to respond to this comment.
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