Susan Thom

Sometimes We Have To Go Inside Ourselves And Find What Is There


Posted: Thursday, May 29, 2008

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When we think , act, and react, we are coming from a point of reference that is ours alone, and may not have been the most advantageous to our lives. We try to do all the right things; being polite, respectful, honest, helpful, kind, considerate, loyal, and yet something is missing. There is a void. It's hard to put your finger on it, but it's there in the pit of your stomach. You are not fulfilling your potential. You are mom when mom is needed, and alone when she is not, and once the children that took up every hour of your existence are gone, what do you have left?

Sometimes, we need to take a trip inside ourselves and rediscover what beliefs and truths we hold sacred. What are our characteristics? Do we come off as arrogant and stuffy, or are we warm and embraceful? Do we pass the motorist broken down on the freeway, or do we ask if they need us to call for help? Do we question the old woman sitting on the bench, looking distressed, if she is alright, or do we keep on walking? Do we tell the little girl sitting in the doctor's office that she has a pretty dress, or do we stay quiet and never let her know?

Are we honest? Do we stick our neck out a little and tell the truth, or do we fear confrontation and hold safe to what we don't want discussed? Do we get the waitress in trouble that we don't like? Do we have vengeful thoughts, and act out upon them? Do we hold grudges and keep people at a distance? Do we go to the dollar store and buy all our friends a little trinket just because we care? Do you share our last two dollars to get our friend in the movies, or do we say we have no money left?

What is our integrity level? What is our core to our foundation? Do we like that core, or are there things we can work on and change? Do we need to be more patient? Do we need to practice not interrupting? Should we work on being more sensitive to other's needs? Are we stingy with compliments? Can we work on that? Can we tell our loved ones that we appreciate them more? Can the words, "thank you" come out of hiding? Can griping about insignificant things stay contained in a mind that is learning to control it's emotions?

Can love and Faith in God keep us swimming with the tide when we feel there's an anchor around our leg? Can strength in mind and body keep us pushing through a storm? Are we grounded to the fact that we are here for a very distinct reason, and it's pretty imperative we figure out what that job is, and excel at it? Do we accept God's will for us, and the power to carry that out? Are we stubborn, and do he hold onto our ideals until we are made to see a better way?

Can we take that look inside ourselves and find the integrity we possess to get through this life? Can we call on that integrity in times of need? Does our mind stop us from doing things we know are inappropriate, even though we want to do them? That is control. And once you are able to control your instincts and your sudden outbursts, peace is within your reach. Your outside appearance then matches your inside thoughts. Other peoples actions don't affect you in the same negative way.

Your energy is back in balance. Your mind, body, and spirit are working as one. You feel strong and safe and hopeful. You can accomplish great things. All by taking a look inside yourself and seeing what was there, and what was being ignored. And then, if you're really in tune, you can realize that you actually like yourself, and will work on your problematic characteristics, and strengthen the good ones you have. There is real promise. You have met a friend, you have met yourself.



Susan Thom is the mother of three children, two sons, 20 and 23, and a daughter 25. Her older son is in the air force in Germany right now, and her daughter is in the army in Tacoma, Washington.

Writing calms her, and gives her a place to go by herself! Clears the head and gets it out. She lives in a rural area, with a lake and mountains, and her partner, and has loved writing since she was a child.

She has been on a journey of self discovery for twenty years, and has learned many things about the human mind, and how to maintain some semblance of calm and peace within.

If someone reads one of her stories, and relates to her feelings, and gets a suggestion on how she dealt with them in a positive way, that would be the ultimate gift of her writing.

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» left by David Tanguay
 3 years 257 days ago.
186 fans.
Yeah Susan, sometimes you're the best friend you ever had.
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» left by sue 3 years 256 days ago.
hi david, thanks for reading and responding, sometimes, we really are the best friend we ever had. my best to you, sue
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