Feel Your Security Blanket At The Will Of A Thought
Posted: Sunday, August 10, 2008
by Susan Thom
Many of us had a security blanket or a stuffed animal or something special that kept us feeling safe and secure when we were little. The feeling was like no other. Pure protection, as well as something soft and fuzzy to hold onto as we drifted off to sleep. To feel safe and secure is the epitome in this life. As we got older, it was more embarrassing to carry our teddy or our blankie around. Now what? We could still keep it with us in our beds, but it would have to stay in our room during the day. We were being desensitized from our security. Even a pacifier had a life span, and then, poof, it was just gone. I'm sure as young toddlers, we wondered why we were given these things, only to have them taken away, just when they were worn in.
As an adult, in times of anxiety and fear, I can will thoughts of how it felt to be so serene and at peace. I can close my eyes and picture my father sitting on my bed with his arm around me, telling me everything would be alright. He is passed now, and I can still feel his arm around me, telling me all will be well. I have only been Blessed with the ability to do this recently. First, I had to clear a lot of negative thoughts out of the way. I couldn't just push them to the side, they'd simply fester. I had to break down each emotion and thought and feeling until I got to the core reason for each. I then had to absorb what I was feeling, and when I got tired of feeling ill, I had to do something about it.
How do you do that? You have to think it through, like a puzzle, which piece fits where, what needs to stay and what needs to go? Throw out the bull and keep the simple. Once you have achieved this, you can then summon memories that will lift your spirit. Grandma frying chicken cutlets, just for you and her. Riding your bike and pretending it was a motorcycle. Playing kickball every night it was sunny and warm. Having beautiful little babies that you couldn't comprehend were yours.
Security blankets at the will of a thought. we all have fears. Just because we are adults doesn't mean we can't have fears. Yes, we have more responsibility to take care of more situations. We have others in our lives that we have to think of, they depend on us, and our strength created that connection.
Nonetheless, we have our moments we must take to reflect and think and cry, and feel our fear. How will the mortgage get paid? One of a couple is getting laid off. How can we afford college? We need a new car, but have no money to get one. All these real happenings interfering with our safety and security. While we are trying to use our minds and solve our situations, we desperately need comfort, and we can get a security blanket at the will of a thought. Think about the smell of mom's meatloaf, the Este Lauder perfume she wore, the chocolate covered cherries she got from dad every Christmas, all the heartfelt cards your kids made for you on holidays. All warm and cuddly thoughts willed by you to help make you feel more at ease, more peaceful and calm.
During all the aggravating times in your life, waiting is extremely frustrating since your spirit is not calm. I have waited for up until two hours at the doctor's, and then another twenty minutes in the room. I wasn't happy, and let it be known, nicely, that two hours and twenty minutes is just too long to have to wait. I wasn't ready at that point, to clear my thoughts and think of good circumstances. I didn't yet know that I had a security blanket at the will of a thought. That I could conjure up happy thoughts to make the time pass easier and faster. My mind was still clouded with anger I hadn't gotten through yet, so, of course I was angry to wait.
I have since come to terms that life is hard, situations are hard, relationships are hard, and we just have to do the best we know how, and that should be the best by normal standards. Those standards would be: honesty, trustworthy, humble, altruistic, caring, compassionate, passionate, loyalty, kind, respectful, thoughtful and selfless. If we can clear our negative thoughts, and replace them with good memories, we can do anything we want. We can be strong, when we feel weak, we can be smart when we feel in a fog, we can be respectful when we don't want to be, we can be kind when we want to smash something. The thoughts are still going to come to us, we are human. However, once you know what to do to make a positive change in your life, you are responsible, in my opinion, to do so. Remember, we all have a security blanket at the will of a thought.
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Top-level comments on this article: (1 total)Well done, Sue. What a great bit of information to pass along. I have no doubt you CAN and WILL get through this part of your journey and reach a place where life is NOT so 'hard'. TRUST, my friend. TRUST!camillePlease log in to respond to this comment.
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