Does It Matter If "Sex And Love No Longer Gel"
Posted: Thursday, August 20, 2009
by Susan Thom
"When chances breathe between the silence, where sex and love no longer gel." I have been a huge Elton John fan since about 1974. A lot of his lyrics are hard to understand if you haven't listened to each CD a minimum of a hundred times. You can look them up or read them off the CD. Once known, chances are you'll never forget them. They have eased me through many a rough time. I think his music sounds beautiful, and his songs all tell a story.
Once the kids are old enough for school, and sports, the physical act of having sex diminishes further, in many cases. There's too much to do and too little time. We begin to get tired earlier and earlier. Maybe a stay at home mom gets a job and is exhausted by the time 9 o'clock comes, or the husband is in a high pressure job and just wants a scotch, a shower, and a bed. Maybe the stay at home mom has cleaned the house, gone on a school trip, or gone grocery shopping.
And then there are always those trips to the bank, post office, and pharmacy, and she simply wants to go to bed once the kids are all nestled. This routine can go on for years if we don't set aside time to be with our mates. And that time, I believe, should be spent making love, not just having sex. Tenderness, sharing, caring, ease and passion in movements are all things we all want and need. I don't think it's a healthy place to be when "sex and love no longer gel."
The emotions and feelings won't be the same. Often, one or both partners will feel used. This could end up causing more distance. If we love our mate, and want to help our situation, we have to keep life interesting for all. Maybe drop the kids off with aunt Tillie for the night, before hubby gets home, and surprise him with a night of undivided attention. A nice gesture by the husband might be a fresh bouquet of flowers or a box of candy. Most women love aromatherapy candles or bath soaps, and these things remind them why they fell in love with him in the first place.
And that's a good thing. A wife's lasagna could also be an appetizer instead of the main dish! I also think all bathtubs should be made for two. Just sitting on the front porch swing can be romantic and enticing if you're enjoying life as nature surrounds you. It would be ideal if sex and love would be as one. The physical act is nature calling. The massage and the foot rub and the exploring of each other's bodies, and the feeling of not wanting this to end, is love.
The wildflowers you each bring one other stimulate the love you have for each other. The homemade apple pie, or chocolate chip cookies, or a favorite meal made by one, the other, or both, brings warmth to the heart. I don't think it's wise to let the embers go out while we try to live this life, only to find out later on that the "sex and love no longer gel."
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Top-level comments on this article: (1 total)I was looking for the meaning of "when sex and love no longer gel" and I found this article... very interesting
thanks for sharing this!Please log in to respond to this comment.i´m from argentina...
sir elton´s fan too.Please log in to respond to this comment.thanks for responding.
elton john has moved many emotions and comforted many when in need.
my best regards,
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