Susan Thom

Comfort Comes From The Soul



Posted: Thursday, November 05, 2009

by Susan Thom

There are certain situations that are so painful, we need to heal before we can begin to feel any comfort. Our healing comes from thinking things through, and talking to ourselves, and our God. This process may take time, but anything worth fixing takes time. Our ways of dealing with anger and pain may need to be modified. Patience goes a long way in the healing process.

Sometimes, we are forced to be patient, so the sooner we gain some, the better. It's really about learning when to let go. Keeping all of our emotions bottled up only causes rage and anxiety. We yell at our kids or our spouse or any number of people we come in contact with. The best thing we can do for ourselves is to prioritize what we get so mad and frustrated over.

If we lose our job, and therefore, are in jeopardy of losing our home and cars, emotions will be at their highest peak. If our dog forgets that he needs to go outside to do his business, does our anger level match losing our job? I have found that if I talk myself into realizing most things are no big deal in the realm of things, I don't get as emotional.

There are different ways of dealing with situations. One is to react to our feelings, as when we drop a carton of eggs on the kitchen floor, and every last one breaks. We could yell, carry on about the mess, or, simply get a roll of paper towels and start cleaning it up. There's less energy in cleaning than in yelling. No one is infallible, but if we can get ourselves to think about what's going on, and do what needs to be done, the episode is over.

If our mind is telling us "it's no big deal" our body will relax. Our minds can tell our bodies what to do, and vice versa. Sometimes, we simply need to rest, or have a cup of tea, or go for a walk. Usually, we get the signal from the brain that tells us we need to do such things. If we listen, and take a nap or go outside, chances are we'll feel better.

If we work on clearing our soul of all the baggage of the past, we will feel calmer and more at peace. Our soul will comfort us in times of stress and pain. It is the core of our Being, and what I believe, is our connection to God. Without a lot of garbage in the way, the soul can feel whole and comforting. It can stand strong with us, or weaken our resolve. I believe all energy emanates from the soul, so the stronger the soul feels, the better we feel.

Comfort is a good feeling when we have so many things going on, usually at once. To understand what we can control, and what we must accept that we can't, is helpful in keeping our state of mind calmer. There are always going to be crisis that are unavoidable, but if we can keep ourselves in tune with our minds and souls, the journey won't seem as hard.

If we can picture a stream of light occupying our inner core, giving us hope and peace and strength, we can handle our problems with more ease and less frustration and anger. Each step towards comfort brings us closer to true happiness and contentment. Little things don't matter as much, and big things are easier to deal with. Let the light shine, and the soul comfort.



Susan Thom is the mother of three children, two sons, 20 and 23, and a daughter 25. Her older son is in the air force in Germany right now, and her daughter is in the army in Tacoma, Washington.

Writing calms her, and gives her a place to go by herself! Clears the head and gets it out. She lives in a rural area, with a lake and mountains, and her partner, and has loved writing since she was a child.

She has been on a journey of self discovery for twenty years, and has learned many things about the human mind, and how to maintain some semblance of calm and peace within.

If someone reads one of her stories, and relates to her feelings, and gets a suggestion on how she dealt with them in a positive way, that would be the ultimate gift of her writing.

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» left by David Tanguay
2 years 203 days ago.
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Another good one Susan, with more good advice.
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» left by Susan Thom 2 years 202 days ago.
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hi david,
 
thank you for taking the time to read and respond.
 
my journey has been long and jam packed, but it's working at
 
the culmination of experiences, and trying to relate to others that
makes me whole.
 
my best regards,
 
sue
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» left by Brianna Popsickle 2 years 201 days ago.
People will tell you I'm a very patient person. Sometimes I wonder if I'm really that patient, or I just don't care. Either way it keeps me calm and when you're calm you think before you react to things. Good advice Susan.
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» left by Susan Thom 2 years 201 days ago.
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hi brianna,
 
thank you for stopping by.
 
thinking before reacting is
 
such an important step in
 
bring about peace and harmony
 
i think. (but not always before i react :)
my best to you,
sue
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» left by Geilt Alasdair
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"The best thing we can do for ourselves is to prioritize what we get so mad and frustrated over. "
 
I don't say this to insult. But this statement admits to a total lack of emotional understanding and control.
 
Why not look at the source of Anger and Frustration? Why not look at the reason we react in the fashion that we do to the situations that produce the emotion? Eventually it is possible to realize that the reaction is a choice.
 
We can stop dancing around our self-imposed emotional burdens and start dancing with it, or be rid of it altogether. All it takes is the time to look and focus at the emotion and follow the feelings that it has come from back to its source.
 
Just ask yourself when you feel "X" emotion. "How does it feel when I am X?" and then on and on until you finally get to the root of all of it. Don't worry if you run in emotional circles, eventually you will break away from that. There is a sense of liberation there that is worth getting to.
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» left by Susan Thom 2 years 195 days ago.
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hi geilt,
 
i was trying to say exactly what you wrote, i guess i just couldn't think of the right word at the time-and prioritize wasn't it.
 
thank you for reading and commenting,
 
my best regards,
 
sue
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