When The Dark Side Crosses Over
Posted: Wednesday, January 13, 2010
by Susan Thom
I think we've all experienced periods in time where it seemed like nothing was going right. We lost our job, our car died on us, our grandmother passed away, our fiance broke off the engagement, and on and on. As each thing happens, it wears us down a little at a time. The stress of the situation we may be in can do serious damage to our hearts, minds, and souls. It leaves our energy low, and our resolve weak. We feel lost by just walking down the street. The fighter in us has worn out, and the light has dwindled down. When we speak, our words are gargled, and we forget everything we think, and people say to us.
I can say this, because I lived it. I went though it, and then I came out on the other side. It wasn't easy waiting for the light to change. There was a huge amount of stress, if that means fear and anger and frustration and annoyance. Sometimes I would question my faith, which is when I knew I was in a bad spot, but I never abandoned it, for which I am thankful. When one thing happens after the other, and we start to have mini panic attacks, mini strokes, then we need to deal with what's happening in a better way. When our speech is slurred, and our balance is off, we are "stressed out."
If we continue fighting the battle, and have accepted the inevitable, and moved on, and are finding true happiness, we are blessed. We have given in, not given up. Given in to the matters that we may have gone through. Breathed a sigh of relief, and just let it go. Started finding happiness in ordinary things you'd forgotten, or ignored. How nice does the family room look, all polished and clean? When the kitchen is organized and clean, how does that feel? When you get under the covers and they smell so nice and feel so good because you washed them today, how does that feel? Once you are able to go for coffee at a friend's, how does that feel?
Once we start feeling all these emotions, the dark side has crossed over. You are back in the light. Your problem is gone, and you can rest easy, at least for the moment. All those things you put off, you now can slowly do. The extra bedroom needs painting? It can be done. Beautiful flowers can be planted, with the mountains as their backdrop. A boat ride on the lake can appear in a minute. These are things to be enjoyed. The dark side does come back, in one form or the other, so it would be to our benefit to enjoy each day we awaken.
So many little things can make us happy. A candle by our computer, a clean house, a comfortable room with nice fluffy down comforters. Items we've collected along our travels. A nice car and the color is our favorite, too. The kids are all on their own, so the house is quiet. I'd rather have them and the noise but I think they are doing what they want to do. Things can be good after the dark side is finished with us. Life can be good again, and productive. And all the glory goes to God. And all the aggravation and symptoms of the dark side have vanished. When the dark side crosses over, there is light.
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Top-level comments on this article: (6 total)I've long thought you are one of the most genuine, spiritually connected writers on SearchWarp. Your connection to humanity is direct and concise, as you have demonstrated in this article. While others talk-the-talk, Sue Thom walks-the-walk.- GPlease log in to respond to this comment.hi gregory,well, that certainly made my day, and i thank you.family and friends told me not to get too personal on line, but not only my stubbornness, but my passion for being honest and telling the truth, has always won out. and the comments have been rewarding. i write to help other people with the experiences and feelings i've gone through, and i listen to the old adage "write what you know"thank you for such a lovely comment,my best,suePlease log in to respond to this comment.
Good article Susan, yes we all experience our ups and downs in life. The trick is to try to keep on the positive side of life.Please log in to respond to this comment.hi david,sometimes i forget what that trick is.however, i am on the upside, so we'll see what happens,thanks for reading and responding,my best,suePlease log in to respond to this comment.
I understand the quiet house thing Susan, both of my children are away at university. But like you, I'm happy knowing they are happy doing what they want and living their own lives as they should be. It's wonderful the way you notice and appreciate the little things that can add to your day, like a candle, like a clean house. If everyone could learn to appreciate the 'little' things in life, they'd be much better off. Have a good day!Please log in to respond to this comment.hi brianna,thanks for stopping by, i appreciate it.yesterday, i went to home depot for my partner-his back was hurting. i had returns and then had to get a couple of parts. i was out of my element. but, i did it. then, for the first time in 3 years, since the divorce, i was able to take a few dollars and go to the dollar store. i was in heaven. i bought candles and oils, and i am comfortable at my computer.that's what makes me happy-not spending a lot of money.a couple of red placemats to give the kitchen some color. a dollar:)i had a limit, i came in 90 cents under, and i went home. it was fun,thanks for the comment,my best,suePlease log in to respond to this comment.
Very well said. Finding happiness in the simple things is the key, and you nailed it. Great article.Please log in to respond to this comment.hi michael,thanks for stopping by.i couldn't afford fresh flowers for the past 3 years, so i got wildflowers and dried them, and they looked great- the simple things.thanks for reading and commenting,my best,suePlease log in to respond to this comment.
The dark times come to all of us. Sometimes it seems they will go on forever, but as I tell my children- and try to remember myself- " And this too shall pass."Please log in to respond to this comment.
hi ella,thank you for reading and commenting.i'm 53, and my mom was telling me "this too shall pass" since i was old enough to understand. it's a great tool.my best regards,suePlease log in to respond to this comment.
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