If Life Isn't The Way You Expected It Would Be, Change It
Posted: Friday, October 01, 2010
by Susan Thom
There are instances where change isn't feasible at the time you need it to be. Say you want to be a ballerina, and have three small kids, no extra money, and no classes in your country town. Then, you have to wait until these circumstances change. Kids grow up, jobs become available, extra money comes into the budget, and schools implement ballerina lessons.
If we find ourselves unhappy at what we are doing, we should really focus on changing our chosen profession. If photography is our desire and we are good at it, sitting behind a desk on a computer isn't doing anything for our happiness. And if we are not happy, how many people do we affect by that frame of mind? Our spouses? Our kids? Our family and friends? I realize we can't always get what we want, but more times than not, we can improve our situation by thinking things through, and changing our position in life.
We have to want that change bad enough to go after it. If we cut hair because we can, but we want to work in a boutique, we have to change our calling, and find what makes us happy. I always wanted to be a mom and I raised three kids. I did what I always wanted to do. However, they have all left the roost now, and I have the time to do anything I want. And I happen to want to write. It's been a passion of mine since I was able to hold the pencil in my hand.
I have written a book, but have no idea how to get it published. I want an honest agency, but I haven't found one yet. $9,000.00 was a bit steep when I called my very first publishing company! However, if writing a book and getting it published isn't what I expected it to be, I'll change it. I'll keep searching and researching until I find the right one. Life takes work. It takes getting things done by using our brains and our intuitions, and physically doing what we can.
Granted, sometimes we are limited physically, or mentally, but we have an obligation to ourselves to do what we can. Otherwise, we go through infancy, adolescence, adulthood, and it's over. Have we sat at a desk for fifty or sixty years, surrounded by cubicles, and no sunshine or real light? Did we learn to play the piano, as we always wanted? Did we do beautiful paintings and frame them through the house? Did we display them for others to enjoy? Did we make beautiful pieces of jewelry and make others happy?
Did we garden around our home and design it to our liking? Did we catch the biggest fish we ever saw? Did we raise children who are strong, honest, respectful, gentle and kind, and will add to this world, not take away? Will we take that extra step, or waste the opportunity to be proud? Will we be missed when we are gone, not for the anger in our souls, but for the compassion in our hearts? Life only lasts a certain amount of years and there are no "do overs."
Did we march in the parade, or dress up as a clown at the neighborhood bazarre? So many things to do. So much fun to have. Did you take the kids outside, cover the picnic table, and let them paint until their hearts were content? Did you take the piano lessons you always wanted to try? Did you jump from a plane, or ride in a hot air balloon? Did you surf the waves, and feel the salt on your face? There is so much of God's creation to experience.
But our minds must think of where we want to go, and our legs must take us there. Or, in many cases, we must use wheel chairs. We can see the sunset that is indescribable. We can touch the dolphins and the fish. We can feel the sand between our toes. We can try all 31 of Baskin Robbins original flavors. We can eat pizza for hours, or hot dogs, or go to a sports game and enjoy ourselves.
We can sit on the porch swing with our partner, and enjoy nature of all kinds. Yes, I believe that if life isn't the way you expected it would be, do what you can to change it.
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Top-level comments on this article: (4 total)Brava Susan. You wrote an inspiring article. Finding and doing what we like makes our lives so much nicer. Why bemoan what you don't have when you can instead celebrate what you do have. Then work towards your other goals step by step. Who knows, you might even have fun along the way.~ GracePlease log in to respond to this comment.hi grace,
welcome to searchwarp.
i'm glad you found this article inspiring.
having fun while going through the ups and downs
of life just seems right,
my best regards,suePlease log in to respond to this comment.
Very good article Susan, nice to have you back again.Please log in to respond to this comment.hi david,
thank you,
it's nice to be missed,
and nice to be back,
my best to you,suePlease log in to respond to this comment.
Change is inevitable. Sometimes we make it happen other times it just happens. Either way we have to learn to roll with it, like you said. Good article Susan.Please log in to respond to this comment.hi brianna,
thank you.
the twenty year olds say, "and that's how we roll"
thanks for reading and commenting.
comments are always appreciated,
my best,suePlease log in to respond to this comment.
This is a great, from the heart article. And practical too. You have a wonderful style. You have put much work into your efforts.Please log in to respond to this comment.hi christopher,
thank you for such high praises.
i love writing. they say "write about what you know!"
thanks for stopping by. welcome to searchwarp.
my best regards,suePlease log in to respond to this comment.
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